Some mornings I hear a birdcall through my bedroom window. It starts up high, then swoops low into a rich, long, warbled pleading. It’s an awkward, anxious interval. Like wide steps in a staircase.
It reminds me of a young couple I met in clinic.
Their daughter had turned one week old.
And they were late.
Dad wore a gingham shirt tucked into canvas brown chinos. His hair, parted and neatly gelled. Mom was in a cotton candy Sherpa jacket and a long dress that partially hid her still-gravid belly. Cora was cradled in her arms, buried in blankets and sucking furiously on a bottle of formula.
They nodded and smiled a lot. So I nodded and smiled a lot, too. The ritual felt familiar, the three of us bobbing away. They declined an interpreter, which was a relief. We only had the one.
Things are good, Dad managed to say. Just, he paused to think, tired.
I doubted they were just anything, so I spoke as much as I could—on feeding tips and safe sleep, reflux precautions and how newborn screens worked and what to do about that dry, flaking skin. I commented on Cora’s fading yellow eyes and the pink patch of skin on her neck. I oohed at her soft belly, visibly unfazed by the black, cracking umbilical stump. I said reassurance in as many languages as I knew. Though they looked so eager, I felt like they were reassuring me.
Mom’s eyes met mine. She started to say something to me, momentarily emboldened, it seemed, but then she turned and asked Dad a question instead. Dad turned to ask me.
So, she is healthy?
I started to speak, to repeat what I had said, but stopped myself and simply continued nodding. Dad translated my nods to Mom, who gave me a shy smile. I felt a quick rush of pride—for providing clarity, for earning smiles—but still, a separation remained.
I left the room to collect their papers and when I came back, Cora was crying. Dad was pacing the room, the front of his shirt untucked from rocking her in his arms. He held his head close to hers, right up against that small, screaming mouth, as he soothed her. Instead of a shushing white noise like dry leaves, he started up high, then swooped low into a rich, long, warbled pleading. He leaned into it, furrowed his brow. It sounded like something escaping. A whine bordering on pleasure. It sounded like my grandmother’s Toisanese, anguished and sonorant. A character in one of her soap operas, maybe. Nurses stopped what they were doing to look in. I shut the door quickly.
Cora calmed in an instant, and Dad looked up at me, puffed and proud.
I gave them my warmest smile before walking them out.
I never saw them again, but I think of them sometimes, on mornings like these, reminded how close our lives sit to the lives of others. With them it became obvious, the arms-distance that things pass over or slip through, and the temptation to draw nearer still and erase the space across which silence sounds like ignorance.
But, of course, it is hardly up to us—we own so little of what we touch. Baby girls. Pleading fathers. Distant mothers we can only reach through a game of telephone. Like birdcalls. And a world outside, one I can only ever ask to come as close as the other side of my bedroom window.
Daniel Lam is a physician, writer, and knitter who lives in Denver with his fiancé. To see more of his work—written and knitted—visit www.masculiknity.com.
Artwork by: Pavan Reddy